Does fulfilling the expectations people (including yourself) have for you give you a high, a rush of dopamine to the feel good centers, and perpetuate a vicious cycle of people pleaser-itis?? Do you ever step back and realize that your time is spent almost entirely on moving someone else’s dial up a notch while simultaneously leaving you stagnant as collateral damage?
If you’re like me, anytime anyone asks you to do a-ny-thing your response is an automatic pre-recorded “sure”, “of course, no problem”, “I’ll make it work, anything for you” regardless of whether this commitment is something you really want to do or not! That is irrelevant right? Must please everyone! Must not disappoint! People rely on me to be trustworthy – the one person they can count on no matter what!
I mean, sure it feels pretty good to be needed – doesn’t it?
People probably tell you all the time…”I don’t know how you do it all! I could never do everything you do in a day”, or “wow, you’re a rockstar – I don’t know how you do it but you always impress me”
Time to pull yourself OUT of the cycle, girlfriend. Your time is worth way more than you’re giving it credit for, and you owe it to the world to take back your life so you can use your gifts to create impact instead of wasting that energy on monotonous tasks and baby showers for second cousins twice removed who live out in the boonies who only invited you because they want your piece of crap baby shower gift to add to the pile.
Does this look like you? Well then, babe, it’s time for a change. Learn to say no (with grace and dignity) to both others AND yourself! (Ya heard). Head on over to the latest blog, People Pleaser-itis – Learning How to Say “No” and Be Okay With It, for your next steps to stand in your truth.
Psst….saying “no” feels SO good, can’t wait for you to give it a try!